Honesty….a rare virtue in these days.
It amazes me that when you are honest, people look at you strangely. That or they are so surprised they don’t know what to say to you.
We went to Sams and bought new mattresses for the kids beds. I had all ready done the math in my head so I knew what our bill should have been at the checkout. The young person rang us up and we paid. I stood there looking at the receipt because I knew something was wrong by $200. I told the clerk that the receipt was wrong and he had made a mistake. He became a little defensive. I am sure they get more of the “You overcharged me” then someone telling him he undercharged on the ticket. He didn’t realize that the MOD (Manager on Duty) had just stepped up behind him as we were explaining the problem. We told him it was short. We gave him back the receipt to double check and his jaw dropped. He apologized and I told him that I was glad we caught the mistake. It was a mistake. I would hate to see his job in jeopardy over this. His MOD told him he was lucky we were honest. She was even surprised….we could have walked out with that mattress and no one would have been the wiser. The person checking receipts that day was not someone who would have picked up on the extra mattress or would have assumed it was part of a set.
We had shopped at Stuffmart. I had paid and was out loading the van. My sister noticed the detergent on the bottom of my cart. I looked at my receipt because I didn’t remember paying for the detergent. I told her I would be back and walked back into Stuffmart with the two detergents. I was stopped at the door and asked if I was returning these items. I looked at the lady sheepishly mind you, and said “No. I forgot to put it up on the checkout line and was coming back in to pay for the detergent.” The lady just stood there looking at me and then walked me over to the information counter. The manager of the store happened to be standing at the counter. I explained that with the paper towels and toilet paper I missed the detergent. I didn’t see it until I got back out to the van. I was bringing it back in to pay for the items. He just stood there and his jaw dropped . One of these days I am going to tell someone that they are going to catch flies in their mouth with it hanging open like that…. 🙂
“You actually came back in to pay for these items?” he asked. “Well yes. I came here expecting to pay and the mistake was mine. I am not into stealing.” He just stood there shaking his head and told me how rare it is to find honest people. Most people would have just left and blamed the store for not catching the mistake.
My friend’s daughter just got hired at Stuffmart. This particular one had a major hiring campaign. When she went through her training, she was told that just this store had suffered a $6,000,000. dollar loss in goods. $4,000,000 of that was stolen by employees. WOW….I couldn’t believe that. Losses of that amount cause prices to go up and those losses are passed on to the consumer. When your prices go up….it’s not all due to the current oil situation.
Several years ago the Marine Corps had to institute character training as part of boot camp. They were amazed at the lack of good character our young people have coming into the military. This is sad.
We have several older folks that live around us. I encourage my children to do things for these people without expecting any type of remuneration. I prefer that they learn to be helpers and servants. Especially with our older folks living on fixed incomes. The boys will always tell my neighbor they don’t want anything for helping. She will usually insist. They will tell her that a dollar is fine. That is just for carrying in her groceries for her. They raked her yard this year with out being asked. We knew she was going to need it just by the amount of acorns we had in our yard. We tried to wait and do this when she was gone so she wouldn’t know who did the work. This is how we clean her driveway and walkway when it snows. Someone living around us always spills the beans. She called me and asked if she could give the boys something for doing the work. I told her it wasn’t necessary but she could ask the boys. They told her the same thing. They told her they just wanted to be helpful. She gave them $5 dollars a piece. There are other people who are younger that will have the boys come and do jobs and they know that is for pay. I just want the kids to learn that we need to help people and not always expect payment. They even came back to me and told me that it really feels good to do something with out payment. (Not all the time of course…. 🙂 ) They felt good helping Miss Anne.
They have learned about tithes and offerings. They have learned that sometimes it is just good to be able to help someone in need. They have learned that you won’t always get a pat on the back. They have seen us do this. They have asked us why we sometimes do things secretly. We told them that God knows what we did and if we have to broadcast our good deed to the person we helped or to others….then it wasn’t such a good deed because we wanted a pat on the back. We have been teaching them about honesty. Good work ethics. This they seem to have grasped everywhere but at home…..No surprise really.
My children under stand honesty. They will come and tell me that they did something or broke something. They learned early on that lying doesn’t pay. What we have stressed to them is that they may think that no one saw them but they are wrong. God sees everything they do. That still small voice inside them that tells them they are wrong and gives them that guilty feeling is the Holy Spirit convicting them.
They have seen us give money back when we have been given too much change. They have witnessed us taking items back into the store. They are amazed that people would be so shocked at honesty. I have tried to impart to them that honesty is a virtue and it is also a part of our testimony. People will not always know that you are Christian by your appearance. But they will know you are different by your actions and behavior.
I once read something by Dr. Bill Rice. He would tell his kids to remember who their father was when they went out somewhere with out Mom and Dad. They thought he was referring to their earthly parents. He was referring to our heavenly Father. I tell my children to remember who their Father is and the testimony He requires of them. I want my children to understand that just because my eyes are not on them…..God’s eyes are….and that He watches over them at all times.
We are living in a day and age when good virtues are rare.
Teach your children well and know that their eyes are always on you….I leave you with this verse….
Php 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
Php 4:9 Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.
May 6, 2008 - Posted by gingerporter | Attitude, Child Training, Children, Education, Growing up, Just Life, Observances | Appearances, Behavior, Children, Education, Honesty, Honoring God, Lying, Morality, Purity, Stealing, Teaching, Virtue, Work Ethics
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